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2013年9月29日星期日

RULES EVERY BRIDESMAID SHOULD FOLLOW

If you have been asked to be a bridesmaid, it means that you are one of the important person for the bride and it is a great honor for you.  As the bridesmaid, what you need to do is to help the bride to make the wedding perfect. There are some general guidelines to being a good bridesmaid. Preserve your friendship and your sanity during your friend’s wedding and her wedding planning by following some simple rules.

 Remember, it’s an honor. Be proud of yourself that you're a good enough friend to rate. Maybe you were there the first night they met. Maybe you were there the moment they fell in love. Maybe you morally supported them throughout their courtship. Maybe you're the best high school friend, the sister, the sister-in-law-to-be, or the best college friend. Maybe they just don’t have many friends and you got the position by default. Whatever the case, you're one of their closest friends and for that you should be proud.

 Provide Moral and Emotional Support. Emotional reinforcement is just as important as on-the-ground, tactile support like setting up chairs or mailing out invitations. Think of yourself as a psychological security blanket for your friend. For example, reflect on what she says (and doesn't say) before firing off your opinion. Empathize with her point of view and give thoughtful feedback when asked for input. Focus on what she feels and wants, as opposed to what you think she should feel or want. Approach delicate topics with sensitivity, and above all else, keep a positive attitude.



Bite Your Tongue. Here's the golden rule of being an awesome bridesmaid: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all.That means no trashing the groom or other bridesmaids, friends or family. This rule is particularly important when wedding dress-shopping with the bride. If she's nuts about a gown and you abhor it, keep your critical thoughts to yourself and find something about it that you do like. Give positive feedback.And don't fake it; your friend can probably tell if you're being authentic and honest. This rule applies to everything: her wedding colors, the cake flavor, the song played for the couple's first dance. Remember, the bride is putting her heart into planning this momentous event that will kick off a brand new chapter in her life. Her fingerprint is on everything, so any carping from you could easily feel like a disparaging remark about her personally.

Be agreeable about style choices

Only if you’ve cut your hand off and want to disguise it should you make any fashion suggestions to the bride. Keep all opinions about the wedding style positive. You love the dress. You love the tuxes. Even if your wardrobe is completely wash and wear and your idea of a tux is the polyester kind from the 70s, you approve of, and wholeheartedly support, the bride’s choices. Parasols? Grand. Lollipop centerpieces? Fabulous.

 


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